Over the weekend I got angry. And for those of you who know me, you know that I am usually an abundant fountain of peace and serenity. But, there are simply times in life when getting angry is exactly what’s called for in order to make some much-needed changes.
My husband and I invest a ton of time, energy, and money in our role as parent. Lately we haven’t gotten the return on investment that we would like and now I am determined to shake things up. Furthermore, I’m determined to do so without spending more energy and draining the life out of us. The thing is we put so much pressure on ourselves. If feels like that is actually our biggest challenge. We don’t need to invest more energy. We need to invest differently. We need to give more where it counts and give less where it doesn’t. I have no idea how I’m going to make this happen. But, I know I can do it!
One thing that I’ve already learned through our recent experiences is that if I am working double and triple time to fix and solve my teen’s problems that they don’t have to. I mean, why should they if someone else is willing to do all the work? So part of how I’m going to do things differently is to approach parenting with a different perspective. Here it is:
It is not my responsibility to fix my teen’s problems. It is my responsibility to teach them how to fix their own problems; how to find, create, and discover their own solutions because the longer I try to fix their life, the longer they will blame me for it. Simply stepping into this perspective and approaching their challenges from a different place really empowers me. It allows me to see their challenges with more clarity from a healthy distance. Plus, I am being respectful of their impending adulthood and independence.
Even though I do not like getting angry, I am so grateful that anger came knocking on my heart and woke me up because now I’m more inspired than ever. I am on a mission to improve my family life and relationships and I am dedicated to sharing it all with you as I go. I have half a dozen articles brewing in my heart, mind, and soul to help people transform their family relationships, learn how to use anger as a tool, and all without becoming a control freak or burning out. If you’d like to be a part of this process, then I invite you to subscribe to my newsletter. Simply send an email to simplewayscoach@aweber.com and you will be signed up to receive my monthly newsletter, free eCourse (coming soon) and all sorts of subscriber specials. Let’s take this journey together!
Coach Cassandra Rae 